The Most Important Question.

When you are a parent there are many questions you have to consider even when you really do not want to consider them.

Who will care for our children should something unspeakable occur?

Fred and I drew up our will the year prior to Ellie's adoption. We knew that Richard and Pauline (My brother and sister in law) would be our choice. They have three girls of their own so our two would be a welcome addition. Ellie and Fiona (6) are incredibly close, in age just 10 months apart, and are just like sisters. My brother would love to corrupt Sagan and teach her all the bad habits he deems important in life! This is all drawn up in our will and should anything happen we are ready.

A few weeks ago a girlfriend asked me to plan on having lunch with her as she needs to talk to me about something important. If you know me then you know I went into a small panic thinking I have done something wrong. That's just me. She and I had that talk yesterday and it was the most important question a parent has to ask someone.

Should anything happen to us would you be guardian to our children?

While she was talking to me and expressing her desire to have us be guardian I kept interrupting and saying, "Yes!" She would continue and I would interrupt and say, "Yes!" again. Smiling at her and nodding my head she would continue. This was wonderful. I was beyond thrilled. She mentioned that I should speak with Fred and I said that he would say "Yes!"

Though everything will be in writing I promised her that we would have the children keep in contact with their family and see that they are educated very well. There would be no doubt in our minds that the girls would be considered family from the very first moment. This is only "if" something should happen and hopefully nothing ever will.

It is such an honor when people think so well of you, isn't it. When they trust and know you so completely that they will give the raising of their children over to you. It's beyond an honor...it's something completely unexplainable. It's a complete wash of emotion and pride. People see us as a great, stable couple. Now everyone has their bumps in the road but our marriage/family is very strong and loving. A nurturing environment for our girls.

The answer to The Most Important Question, YES!